More of the same will give you more of the same....have you ever had a debate and the more you insisted on a point, the more the other person held on to their beliefs? Sometimes, we need to change tactics to see a different reaction from those around us, especially if we feel we are not being seen or heard.  Try something different - be kinder, or firmer, be direct, or subtle. Try something different than you usually do....and watch the magic happen.  In therapy, you can learn how!